Meet Raji Kelly Simpson: numerology dynamo, Kundalini maven, virtual photography workshop leader, sparkle power mamma to FINN & oh, so much more…
TSPP: What is your current age, location & occupation?
RS: Current Age, 43 Location: My beloved White Mountains, Western Maine…my heart lives where the climate suits my clothes every winter!
TSPP: How old are your little ones?
RS: Almost 10. Loving the not so little! Some people miss those baby years and I am digging seeing more eye to eye.
TSPP: What 3 words would you use to describe your typical day?
RS: As a practice, I love to create my day based on how I WANT my day to feel. JoyFULL, connected, and inspired. Then I can do little micro acts that will bring me closer to those. Do I feel like that in my day to day? Not always of course, but have something to come back to.
TSPP: What are the 3 biggest challenges you face as a mom?
RS: Good news. These challenges are almost difficult for me to write. After nine years of being challenged in 3,000 ways….none seem overly challenging at the moment.
The biggest challenges? Finn~Scorpio. Me~Pisces. Challenging dynamic by design.
Dropping the ideal of how I thought it would be, ha! That would include not comparing myself to other mothers who seem to be gaga over motherhood while my husband and I for years whispering, to each other, “people think this is fun?” and feeling downright isolated and shameful about it. Challenging.
& Not holding a grudge, oh God, grueling. Me to Finn, the following morning after a rough night: “Geez, what was your problem last night?” (I had called three friends and bitched all about it). Finn: “I don’t understand why that matters now.” Hmmmm, true…so true.
TSPP: What solutions do you seek out for them?
RS: Being more gentle and accepting of myself.
TSPP: How much time a day, if any, do you spend alone? How often?
RS: During the school year I spend a darn good amount of time by myself. HOME ALONE does me well and carries me a long way. I feel restored, refreshed, and filled up after a day by myself; so when he returns from the school day I feel I can be totally present and a happier, healthier me. And now that he is older, half the time he hops on his bike after school and visits and plays with friends after school.
TSPP: We know that being a mom is a full time job, but are you also working another job? Please describe & include time commitment & location.
RS: Yes, I work other jobs! I am a teacher…I teach what I love, self portrait photography, yoga, numerology, JourneyDance, and and and…
TSPP: If you do work in addition to being a mom, how do you feel it impacts (positively &/or negatively) your desire to be the parent you’d like to be?
RS: I think this has a positive effect on my parenting because it models nurturing your passions and the notion that you can create a job that you love. It also gives me some flexibility with my schedule and allows me to mix it up; sometimes I work from home, and sometimes I travel to amazing retreat centers. My work fills me up, inspires me and I am always in process with what I am teaching, so it is simultaneously nurturing as well as creative for me.
TSPP: In what ways, if any, do you practice self care, nurturing & creativity?
RS: I am a self care junkie. I dance. I make time for creative ventures. I buy clothes that make me feel awesome. I indulge in yummy food that fuels my body. I leave Finn home for an hour by himself with free reign of NetFlix and walk the dog. I splurge on kombucha and amazing coffee.
TSPP: Do you feel like you get enough sleep? Exercise? How’s that working for you?
RS: Now that Finn is older I get plenty of sleep. It will happen ladies.
TSPP: On a scale of 1-10 (1 being not much, 10 being maximum), how much mamma guilt do you tend to carry?
RS: 4. To have any took me by surprise. I half jokingly say to dear friends that I never hated myself until I was a mother. I mostly feel guilt for not being more patient, for rushing him off to bed, for yelling up the stairs ‘shut the bleep up’, for making him go to school although I struggle with the whole concept, because we are a terrible home school match.
TSPP: On a scale of 1-10 (1 being difficult, 10 being easy), how would you rate your daily experience of healthy, consistent & simple meal offerings?
RS: Meal offering scale. 8. Healthy, consistent, simple, repeat. Finn eats non stop. As long as I pack my cupboards with things that are healthy and I don’t care if he eats, no problem.
TSPP: Describe the sort of fun you have with your kids.
RS: 9 has been my favorite age. I am loving the conversations, that is a whole new level of fun, just hanging out, less planning, more spontaneous bike rides, trampoline jumping, guitar playing, cards, board games, baseball….just don’t make me play legos please.
TSPP: Do you have fun doing things without your kids? Describe.
RS: Oh yes, more please.
My husband and I were together for ten years before Finn was born. We had a spanking good time together and we aren’t afraid of doing it now.
Lately has been Sunday Funday without Finnday, which includes a trip to Portland, ME with my honey. He drops me off at Ecstatic Dance, he heads to local photography collective. We connect again, hit the taqueria, a photo walk together, Trader Joe’s, and a dip in the river. Heaven.
TSPP: Do you have any personal parenting mantras that get you by?
RS: “Recognize the other person is you”~Yogi Bhajan
To learn more about this amazing mamma, visit her website at rajikelleysimpson.com.